Marriage Fiqh
Quran - 30:21 "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." (Tr. Yusuf Ali)
Quran - 4:4 "And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Take it and enjoy it with right good cheer." (Tr. Yusuf Ali) Quran - (Surah al-Hujurat 49:13), O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of God is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And God has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things). [end of quote from Quran] Taqdeer (Fate) and marriage explained: "If a righteous man proposes marriage to a woman, she should pray to Allaah for guidance (istikhaarah) and agree to marry him. If things then go smoothly, this is an indication that what is good for her is to marry him. In conclusion, man should study the sharee’ah of Allaah and follow the commands of Allaah even if he feels reluctant, and avoid what Allaah has forbidden even if he is attached to it. All goodness is to be found in obeying sharee’ah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “... it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows but you do not know” [al-Baqarah 2:216] [Taken from Question and Answer Database :: QuranSunnah.Com] Continue reading this topic: Is one’s life partner chosen by oneself or decreed by Allaah? Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham: If marrying within one’s caste is based on pride and arrogance of their tribe, then that will not be permissible. Allah (SWA) in the Holy Quran has said: “O Mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other. Verily, the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) most rightness of you” (Surah Hujuraat v.13) However, if one marries to someone within their caste because of the suitability and compatibility then it will be permissible, as suitability and kafaah is a very important ingredient for an ever lasting and happy marriage. (Raddul Muhtar p.204 v.4) Qualities of various tribes in Hadith: It is narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said: The [quality of] rule is in Quraish; the [quality of] legal judgment is in the Ansaar1; the [quality of] making call to the prayers is in the people of Habsha2; and the [quality of] fulfilling trusts is in the people of Yemen.3... See the complete text with notes Hadith of the Holy Prophet, PBUH: A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper. [al-Sahih, al-Bukhari, Abu ‘Abd Allah Muhammad b. Isma‘il b. Ibrahῑm b. al-Mughira (194-256/810-870). Beirut, Lebanon: Dar Ibn Kathir, al-Yamama, 1407/1987 Book: The Wedlock, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), chapter: Both husband and wife should have the same religion. Volume 5,p: 1958 , Number :4802] |
Extract: "Memons usually marry within their own social affiliation (Jamat) (endogamy), depending on circumstances a group (Jamat) may be as small as few hundred families and as large as few thousand families. For example Cutchi Memon define their jamat to be entire group having very few sub-groups whereas Kathiawadi Memons are branched into few dozens sub-groups. For Kathiawadi Memon a group, by and large, usually shares their ancestor village in Kathiawad as a reference point. Marriage between close relatives especially first cousins is discouraged but such reunion is possible where a group is too small. Marriage outside the social group (e.g. marrying a Surti Muslim) is now quite common and accepted by most Memons, although some community elders may still discourage it." [source: Marriage customs, Cutchi Memon Association, Cochin]
Always ask for references: "This is also where your “third party” comes in handy. Not only will they be able to be your reference. They can also check out a prospective mate's references. A reference can include an Imam who knows the brother who proposed to you, a sister who knows the woman you may want to marry well, a family friend, a boss, a co-worker, and/or business partner. A note about honesty and references: the people you ask may know something not very nice about your prospective spouse. Remind them that if they reveal this information, they would not be backbiting from the Islamic perspective. In fact, in the case of seeking marriage, complete information should be given about an individual, both good and bad. The advice of one of the companions of the Prophet (PBUH), Umar Ibn al-Khattab (RA), can help in this regard: A man came to Umar ibn al-Khattab (RA) and spoke in praise of another. Umar asked him: “Are you his nearest neighbor such that you know his goings and his comings?” “No.” “Have you been his companion on a journey so that you could see evidence of his good character?” “No.” “Have you had dealings with him involving dinars and dirhams [money] which would indicate the piety of the man?” “No.” “I think you saw him standing in the mosque muttering the Quran and moving his head up and down?” “Yes.” “Go, for you do not know him...” And to the man in question, Umar said, “Go and bring me someone who knows you.” (quoted from Islam The Natural Way by Abdul Wahid Hamid, p. 66) This gives you three types of people you can ask about a prospective mate's character: a neighbor, business colleague or someone who has traveled with them." source: Seeking a Spouse, By Samana Siddiqui |
